When you get married, you have all the best intentions to keep everything the same in your relationship as while you were dating. I can remember having conversations with my hubby pre-kids that went something like this “When we have kids, we are going to put our relationship first and they have to fit into OUR life exactly the way we live it now.” Ha…ha…ha…. Once you have kids, things inevitably change. It becomes hard to focus on each other the way you did when it was only the two of you. ESPECIALLY when you have a second child. Then, it’s like everything in life just exploded and you are both just trying to survive on a daily basis! But, that’s a whole other blog post! In all seriousness though, taking time for one another is tough. You are both so tired by the end of the day, that it can be easier to just get in your pjs and stay in.
It becomes so easy to move throughout our days with blinders on, only focused on what is going on inside our individual bubbles. Wake up, get kids fed and dressed, off to school, down for nap, clean the house, run errands, make dinner…repeat. We try to just block out the fact that all around us our world is growing darker and darker.
Our husbands always have the best intentions. Really all any husband actually cares about is that their wife is happy.. because if she’s not happy, ain’t nobody happy. This year for my birthday I had decided I was going to treat myself to a spa day at the Hilton. A nice hour and a half massage, possibly a facial, glass of champagne and sit by the pool for a good couple hours. I just needed some relaxing Kelly time, and didn’t have a problem giving myself that birthday gift. When I mentioned this to my husband, he says ‘I already got you a massage for your birthday! Don’t worry about it!’ Well, this just made me a very happy lady. Husband points were surely scored.