When you get married, you have all the best intentions to keep everything the same in your relationship as while you were dating. I can remember having conversations with my hubby pre-kids that went something like this “When we have kids, we are going to put our relationship first and they have to fit into OUR life exactly the way we live it now.” Ha…ha…ha…. Once you have kids, things inevitably change. It becomes hard to focus on each other the way you did when it was only the two of you. ESPECIALLY when you have a second child. Then, it’s like everything in life just exploded and you are both just trying to survive on a daily basis! But, that’s a whole other blog post! In all seriousness though, taking time for one another is tough. You are both so tired by the end of the day, that it can be easier to just get in your pjs and stay in.
Last month, we decided it was time to take a little trip away for just the two of us. We left the kiddos at the grandparent’s house last week for the night and took a drive out to Palm Springs. All I had in mind was warm sun, a cold drink, and a heated pool. I just wanted a 24hr period of not having to take care of anyone, not having to make anyone a meal, or change a diaper.
I have to say, even though we only went for a day and a half, it was SO refreshing. Not only for the rest, but for our marriage as well. Once we were actually separated from the kids for a while, just the two of us, we had the time to connect with each other and catch up in a way that can be hard to do these days at home. The little getaway really reminded us how important it is to take time for US, and not feel bad about that. The love we as a couple have and show to each other, will be what our children learn from and look for in their own spouses. Not only that, but we as parents cannot pour from empty, worn out cups! We need to do a little more of what we said we would do pre-kids. Put our marriage first.
Besides, any excuse to go to Palm Springs works for me!! Even just regular date nights, afternoon dates, activity dates where you just go for a hike or play tennis. All of these things will feed your marriage and ultimately your entire family.
Oh man, I reeeeeeally want to go back and eat ceviche by the pool. That is what Mom dreams are made of!! Take me back!! I made Grant document this heavenly moment so I can remember how fabulous it was. LOL
We also drove through Idyllwild on the way back to San Diego, which was gorgeous and a fun time as well. Except for the part where I got car sick from all those darn twists and turns!
So go ahead, and ditch your kids for your spouse more often!